Change is good and necessary, but usually I don't like it. I like my routine. I like when things are nice and predictable and safe. I don't always dislike change, it's just that I want to be the one to cause it on my terms and in my time. Well, I don't have to tell you that life doesn't always cooperate with our plans. The past year has been full of many changes, some that I could never have predicted and that I may not ever understand. A year ago in March, a very close and dear friend who happened to be the pastor of our church got the flu which turned into pneumonia and within a week he had died. He was 40 years old. Otherwise healthy, with two small children. I mean that kind of change. This week we were again reminded of how fragile life is and how quickly things can change without warning when a friend and co-oworker of John's was in a 4-wheeler accident and is now in ICU with a massive head injury. He's like 30 years old.
And the thought that keeps resonating with me is that I don't want to waste my life. That is like my biggest fear. Losing my husband or children would be a close second, but coming to the end of my life and realizing that I had wasted it on trivial things would be the worst. And I worry that most of my days are spent that way. I was going to post about the wonderful things I got for Mother's day, and I will because I am thankful and I am blessed. But when I sat down to write today, something different came out. I don't want my days to just be about the stuff. The stuff I want, the stuff I make, the stuff I need, the stuff I do, the stuff I'm preoccupied with. If it is all about me, then I've missed something somewhere.
I do try to live my life by what I believe to be important, but "life" ends up to be a series of days and often it is too easy to get caught up in things that don't really matter or only matter for this one day. I mean, at the end of my life, am I going to look back and wish I had done more thrift shopping? Am I going to wish my button collection was just a little bigger? Okay, so I might actually wish I could go thrift shopping or run my fingers through my button collection just one more time...but that isn't what I want my life to be about. So, I guess change is good if it causes you to stop and evaluate how things are going from time to time. I mean, the days sometimes go by so slowly, but the years fly by.
Change for the good: I've resigned all my design team positions and plan only to do designing on a freelance basis, i.e., work that I can earn real money for. I've narrowed my focus to concentrate more on my mixed media art and crafting that centers around my home. Also, I'm going to start homeschooling Soren for kindergarten in the fall. It is something I've always wanted to do, but have been afraid to do (afraid I'd screw up my kids, afraid it would be too hard, afraid I'd never have time for myself, afraid I'd suck at it.) This time I don't feel afraid.
A few years ago I read an excellent book by Edith Schaeffer (the daughter of Francis Schaeffer, Christian apologist & philosopher) called The Hidden Art of Homemaking, creative ideas for enriching everyday life. I think I might reread it now. Maybe I'll even share a few bits here along the way.
But before I go, I have to brag on my wonderful husband who truly spoiled me over Mother's Day weekend. Soren had been running a little fever on Saturday, so we kept him home from church on Sunday, just in case. When Maisey and I got home, I found that John had cleaned the whole house, even the kid's rooms! Soren brought me a card and my Mother's day present, two new CDs I've been coveting: KT Tunstall and Jack Johnson. I was thrilled, but then John brought out another card filled with cash. And the rest of the day belonged to me. They took me to the fabric store, the book store, out to eat and let me stay as long as I wanted...no kids to chase around, no one getting a sudden shopping headache, and money to burn. Just spending time together doing stuff I enjoy doing. Do I have a fabulous husband or what?? Okay, so here are the pictures:
The flower buttons are my favorite. And the books. I'll have some book reviews for you later. And if you've made it this far in my post, thanks for listening.